Have been “invited” to have an open relationship as a 3rd party.
Personally, I don’t think it is wrong to have an open relationship and to be a 3rd, 4th or even 5th party in a relationship. As long as everyone is happy. Anyway, I rejected this “offer”.
Did discuss with S before and after I rejected my friend. We agree as long as we are happy, it doesn’t matter whether it is an open relationship or a part time relationship. However, we also agree that it is tough to be a 3rd party in a relationship.
In a modern age, it is not difficult to find someone who has more than 1 relationship. It might be one of the reasons why “Desperate Housewives” is so popular.
This is the track and it is nothing wrong for doing that. Just enjoy what you enjoy.
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
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What do you actually mean by an open relationship with a 3rd, 4th and 5th party?
It meant a relationship is not only 1 to 1 but can be 1 to many or many to many. Just like an ER diagram (Entity Relationship Diagrams).
Each of the “participate” knows there are other participates in the diagrams.
They might know or might not know everyone, it depends on whether the “key” people do build up the link.
They accept this kind of many to many Open Relationship.
The 'offer' which i had, the ER diagram is 1 to many. we know everyone in the diagram.
So what will happen at the end with this relationship?
Whatever.
Regardless of what kind of the relationship is (Open, part time, ONS, marriied and else), no1 is able to know what is going to happen in future.
So, as long as enjoy and happy with the relationship at this moment and that is good enough.
However, it doesn’t meant this kind of relationship suits every1.
lol…
Yeah, call me conservative but this kind of relationship is really something that I have never heard of hehe...
3 is already enough headache... more than 3 is a crowd....
Actually I don’t mind to have an open relationship but I am not sure whether I am able to handle it well or not.
If it’s only for fun, then no issue. If involve with true feeling and emotion, then going to be a bit complicated.
Last year did tell A & J, if I like some1, I dun mind to be the 3rd or 4th party, even just PTL (Part Time Lover). However, after a while, I might expect for more.
Just like look for job. At 1st, I don’t mind to work as part time. After a while, I expect to have a longer commitment,half year or 1 year contract is better. After I get a contract offer, then I expect to covert to perm. In such case, I break the rule and the game is not able to continue any more.
I am an ordinary person. I may either feel bored/tired of the “game” and give up or break the rule of the game.
True true.. it will always be complicated as long as emotions are involved. And we always do irrational things when we are emotional. So unless one is able to handle his/her emotions properly, this is a dangerous game to play.
It is only dangerous if you are the key person and neither nor the parties know each other. This type of trailing and feel more guilty as well.
For Alfie case, everyone know each other which is a very open "1 to many" relationship, so it is better to take things lightly and not to be very emotionally involved... to avoid getting yr self hurt or anyone hurt.. u don't want to end up becoming enemies with each other....
but a relationship without deep emotional attachments... is not called a relationship..is called "Friendship" hahaha...
So better to remain friends and have the neither near nor there feelings... if things are going to happen.. it will happen when u least expect it :)people called that "FATE"-Summerpig
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